Apologies if you thought I was in any way making judgments on you specifically, that was not my intention or where my perspective was coming from at all! I could not tell from your post how often you have opportunities to present so I was only trying to present possibilities on their perspective (which, to clarify further, I don't see people's perspectives as truth.. only their truth) in order to suggest possible paths forward. All I meant by that note that came off harsh was that it's hard to think of someone as a talented presenter if they don't really think of them as a presenter in the first place if they don't see it happen. But from your response that clearly wpuldnt apply to you if you are presenting in front of them often. Only you can know what applies to you, my thoughts were only reflective of cases I've seen before, not of you. I also just want to add a note that I wrote they don't see you "do it" often, as in present. It was all.structured as an "If this, then maybe this" scenario so if your reality doesnt meet that "if", then it is just a wrong guess. I can 100% understand and relate to feeling unseen so I can understand why reading that might've given you a harsh or negative feeling. Please know that I held no ideation about you or who you are and was simply offering an explanation for repeated feedback like this that I had seen in the past wondering if it might be helpful to you.
Since you do present often I would go back to my earlier guess that your leadership simply doesnt have the skills to develop you and present feedback. I don't know that to be true, another guess, but if they can't explain why they are telling you to develop your presentation skills then how do they even know what a good presentation is?
I'm glad to hear you've gotten high remarks again! Maybe keep track of those to show to your leadership should they continue to give that feedback? And continue to be proud and own who you are. You don't have to be an extrovert to present well and be incredibly effective. Introverts are highly effective and can be influential. I think when it comes to ANY feedback or advice, whether it's comments on here like from me or feedback from your boss, you have to know and trust yourself so you can take from it what is helpful and applicable to you and just leave the rest.
Again, I'm really sorry if I expressed anything in a way that felt accusatory or offensive. I only ever try to offer options and perspectives in hopes they are helpful.
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