Last year I took a position with a company I have wanted to work for.

Anonymous

October 3,2023 at 2:00PM UTC

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Last year I took a position with a company I have wanted to work for. I am very experienced in my field but this kid of work there needs to be training no matter where you work and self teaching is difficult.

I feel like my manager has made it impossible for me to be successful. From training by individuals that were looking for growth but lacked training knowledge and lacked patience. giving me a client that in my experience would go to a tenure employee. Then giving me two clients from another employee, you truly should not do that in my area of work unless an employee leaves.

I have evaluated to see if or how I contributed to my 1.5 years of non stop failure in my role when I have 12 years of being very successful. I have spoken to my boss always making sure I have solutions and not pointing fingers. Now I feel like it has become even more impossible to succeed. I follow a process she taught me just for her to tell me I am wrong and deny that’s how she taught me. Her expectations of me are highly difficult to meet and no other team member is being held to the expectations I am held to, of course I asked.

I am just venting because I feel alone with this and have no one to go to without feeling like a a problem, a complainer and difficult.

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AnonymousOctober 3,2023 at 5:22PM UTC
I haven’t had one of those, but I assume you are talking about a video you make yourself wherein you answer the “tell me about yourself” question and other required questions.
If so, I can see why you hate it. It is an unnatural situation which emphasizes your ability to present yourself well on camera and, possibly, edit the video.
If you were auditioning for a public speaking or on camera role, this type of interview would be relevant. But for most of us it would be stressful and irrelevant.
I happen to enjoy public speaking and am good at it, but tend to freeze or make errors when I’m told to “perform” for a video. Most people hate public speaking, take selfies multiple times, and aren’t proficient in interviewing in front of a camera. So I imagine that this type of interview is like water torture for most of us.
AnonymousOctober 3,2023 at 7:00PM UTC
Your reply sounds nice but I don’t understand what you are saying to OP. Did you possibly post this to the wrong post?
OP -leaving may be the only option. See if your skills are transferable to another position within the company and if not consider a new company.
AnonymousOctober 4,2023 at 1:12AM UTC
My manager was the same way. Each time I'd reach the bar of success, it would be raised "as decided yesterday". There wasn't ONE day of achievement before being raised....I couldn't reach aspirations purposely.
I ended switching departments because i was able to document everything I did to try and be successful so I showed clear intent
AnonymousOctober 4,2023 at 4:07AM UTC
This is obnoxious to post on every post
AnonymousOctober 4,2023 at 1:36PM UTC
I'm struggling with your narrative a bit, so help me understand.
You talk several times about your significant experience yet speak to the need for all this training. The training that has been provided is insufficient, with all of your experience you've been giving a client that should have went to a tenured employee, and you were handed two clients from someone else. This all sounds pretty normal to me...what am I missing? Few of us have the luxury to decline work we just don't like.
It would be great if we could all craft a perfect onboarding experience or come into a new role and cherry-pick our clients...but I think we all know it doesn't work this way.
In the limited info you've provided, it sounds like expectations aren't being met from either side of this equation. I'm sensing that despite all of your experience, you're needing more training than the organization was prepared to provide. And your boss expected you to hit the ground running which didn't happen.
If this role isn't salvageable, do yourself a favor and end this agony by aggressively applying for new positions. Best of luck in your search.
AnonymousOctober 4,2023 at 11:08PM UTC
I understand your situation but from the other perspective. When people come into where I worked with 12 years of experience, they assume they KNOW everything. Most times, the needs of the organizations are different enough to require a certain amount of training in the specific ways the new organization does things. This is the type of training I am assuming you are alluding to. This is especially important in case management scenarios. Dealing with homeless clients is different than dealing with foster parents, so even if you have 12 years of experience with homeless people, you know case management. You need to figure out how to overlay the foster system. I may have the industries or the specialties wrong, but do I read your situation correctly? Knowing what you are coming from and going to would assist considerably in determining how to help.
It also sounds like your manager needs to be apprised that your background is in xxx, and he expects you to know yyy, so a frank conversation with them might help clear the air about expectations.
AnonymousOctober 8,2023 at 1:29PM UTC
The OP did not indicate in any way that she thought she ‘knew everything.’
Managers who were given roles over others but lack management skill, and staff who have no time or training skill being tasked with training new people is an incredibly common scenario in the US, so I wouldn’t jump to the conclusion that this must be OP just not talking to her (female) manager.
AnonymousOctober 9,2023 at 1:21PM UTC
You misunderstood, and I apologize for not making it clear. The "they" I was talking about was the new organization, not the OP. They think, "Oh, this person has 12 years of experience, so they must know everything." They know what is central to the organization, not how it is implemented. Some people believe that their reality is everyone else's, too. For me, I'm glad. Otherwise, this would be a boring planet to live on.
AnonymousOctober 8,2023 at 1:16PM UTC
Many people are given leadership positions despite a lack of actual people management skill. And many managers are insecure and/or narcissistic and feel threatened by their employees, especially if they are smart and experienced. Constantly moving goalposts is a clear sign that you’re being sabotaged.
So it’s entirely possible that’s the case here. Talking with HR is pointless. The only way out of these situations, unless there’s a chance the manager will be fired or leave relatively soon, is to move within the company so you have a different boss, or leave entirely.
AnonymousOctober 8,2023 at 5:30PM UTC
I would decide how much you want to stay there, if you cannot figure out how to manage your manager or they are unwilling to shift and take feedback for how you need to learn new things then your 2 options are bring it to HR in a productive way so that you can excel or move on.