I asked for a raise and in what I feel is retaliation was put on a performance review.

Anonymous

November 19,2023 at 7:25PM UTC

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I asked for a raise and in what I feel is retaliation was put on a performance review. This was the first time the company expressed any issues with my work and I'm shocked by the turn of events. Do I need to leave or stay and fight until I find another role? I'm shocked and still processing their actions!

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AnonymousNovember 19,2023 at 10:16PM UTC
What did the performance review say? Do any of the criticisms hold merit?
AnonymousNovember 20,2023 at 3:02AM UTC
They were things from early in my time in the company while I was still learning but over a year ago. Since then I've had reviews without any mention of problems. All of a sudden they are issues and the PIP requirements to stay are so over the top there isn't a way of meeting them within the time required. I feel like I'm being set up to fail. I've increased revenue and brought in new business. I had reason for requesting an increase so I don't know why this is happening.
AnonymousNovember 23,2023 at 4:45PM UTC
If you see things that will be difficult to achieve, make sure to ask your supervisor for coaching, training, and advice on how to accomplish those expectations. It accomplishes three things: it may help you meet your PIP expectations, it shows your supervisor you have initiative, and it puts your request on record. Do not wait until your PIP is almost over to ask for help.
AnonymousNovember 19,2023 at 10:57PM UTC
Quiet quit while you use tgectime to find something better.
Do the bare minimum required to meet your PIP and try and stay under the radar until you find your next job or until they let you go.
Kathryn CarrNovember 23,2023 at 1:13PM UTC
Yes. This dripfeed manoeuvre is very commonplace when marginalised individuals ask for any modicum of recognition for their value to an organisation. My advice?
You deserve better.
Move on, before the organisation ruins your health and external prospects!
If this is their reaction to you merely asking for a raise, can you imagine how they might react if you were literally in danger at work and you were forced to prioritise your own safety?
AnonymousNovember 24,2023 at 3:52AM UTC
Wow, do you know my life story?
Tom ReulandNovember 23,2023 at 1:41PM UTC
Brush up your resume. I’d start looking for other jobs. Sounds like they do not want you around? Good luck.
abubbles84@hotmail.comNovember 23,2023 at 2:39PM UTC
From personal experience - Don't waste your energy on fighting them. Don't quit either or you'll miss out on unemployment if needed. Do what you need to do until you find another role. You'll find something else.
AnonymousNovember 24,2023 at 1:06PM UTC
I agree, but part of me would want to just flounce out of there with a new job under my belt with absolutely no notice. Just take my stuff and go and leave them hanging.
AnonymousNovember 23,2023 at 6:08PM UTC
Ask for real feedback on why you are being blindsided by this, you may learn something new about how you are being perceived by your counterparts and leadership, if it is something fixable do it then you can take your skills elsewhere that it may be more appreciated. Fighting is not the answer, proving and improving is. Its good for you too.
Stephanie Branch LekowskiNovember 23,2023 at 7:20PM UTC
Being put on a PIP is the career equivalent of divorce papers. Leave the job as soon as you can- if you didn't give them an ultimatum there's no reason for them to retaliate.
Dawn CrossNovember 23,2023 at 11:20PM UTC
What was the reason they gave for the performance evaluation?
Is it something you can talk to them about, calmly, to determine what brought this on?
AnonymousNovember 24,2023 at 3:48AM UTC
You need to leave.
Document everything (i.e. send emails to them - don't just keep a list of grievances). Make sure you do everything right and that they know you are. They may still make your life miserable and eventually let you go, but it will help you negotiate a good severance package if you can't leave for another job first. Good luck. You have my sympathy.
Liz MilneNovember 24,2023 at 1:57PM UTC
Start planning to leave, but keep it quiet: if they react so spitefully to a simple request for a raise, they will only be so much worse should they find out you're going...
AnonymousNovember 24,2023 at 3:56PM UTC
Hi! My response sounds much different than others. I had this happen before, but I was the manager. When my staff asked for the promotion, it made me realize just how askew their perspective of their work was. I had felt like I was telling them what was wrong in so many ways before, but ultimately a PIP was the only way we could have the structure needed to get the employee to where they wanted to be, i.e. performing at a higher caliber consistently enough to be promoted. It wasn't to kick them out, just to help improve their performance.
Liz MilneNovember 24,2023 at 11:29PM UTC
If there were issues with their work, why weren't they already being guided towards doing better? I do understand why OP thinks that it feels like retaliation if she's *never* been pulled on anything at all, only to be 'punished' for asking what would be quite reasonable after however many years of seeming satisfactory work - I wish managers were taught how to express their expectations when they take positions overseeing others: this sort of thing must happen so often...
Bridget HarringtonNovember 28,2023 at 9:15PM UTC
Exactly! It's the same flavor as when you switch companies for higher pay or higher level work and only then does your present employer try to entice you to stay. Why you should never accept counteroffers....when your value is respected, it doesn't take any ultimatum to be paid what you are worth or given opportunities to grow.
If the true intent was to help the employee grow, then no PIP would be necessary. Unless, of course, the manager is lacking and didn't mentor the employee properly. I've seen plenty of people get put on PIPS to cover the manager's butt.
AnonymousNovember 28,2023 at 6:56AM UTC
in my opinion, this shows broken trust and lack of respect. I would bide my time, knowing I would not be happy long term. But, work with urgency, not emergency, to find another company. This is jot a stable environment. Do not wait until you are desperate to leave- these are clear red flags you need to heed. Best wishes in finding a company where you are valued.