I feel guilty to decline a job offer

Anonymous

February 6,2024 at 4:01AM UTC

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I feel guilty to decline a job offer

I interviewed about 2 months ago for a lateral position because of bad relationships with my current boss. Since then I was able to transfer internally and got a small increase. The new job would have some nice new interesting aspects, but requires one additional day in the office, 3 days less vacation and after my current increase, same salary. So I would like to decline, but emotionally I am having hard time. Am I crazy?

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AnonymousFebruary 6,2024 at 5:13AM UTC
You gotta do what is right for you....no guilt! If it isn't a good fit, it isn't a good fit.
AnonymousFebruary 6,2024 at 6:25AM UTC
Nope. Decline because you are losing not them.
Maegan, Nike Sales Rep & Career CoachFebruary 6,2024 at 12:26PM UTC
Emotions are always a big part of work! Let them know you are in a situation that fits your needs but you appreciate the offer and going through the process with you. You can be gracious and still turn them down.
AnonymousFebruary 6,2024 at 1:18PM UTC
You can always tell them that you were transferred with an increase and to move you would need to receive 10% more than the offer with 5 additional days of PTO. If they decline no big, if they say yes... THEN you have a decision.
AnonymousFebruary 6,2024 at 5:30PM UTC
Trust me you are not their only candidate I'm sure, they have piled up some great candidates. You are just giving one of them a shot.
KFebruary 7,2024 at 10:33AM UTC
Don't feel bad. Feel pleased someone wanted you but know they definitely have a long list of alternatives they can hire in a snap due tot he current job market. Do what's right for you. You are in a happier position and would be mad to leave it. If you could explain this to anybody, they'd get it and tell you to stay!
Shelly EdwardsFebruary 8,2024 at 3:32AM UTC
You should do what’s best for you and not feel bad at all. You have to live your life and be happy in it v
ElizabethFebruary 8,2024 at 3:38AM UTC
Is there room to negotiate?
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