After job searching for a year, I feel so defeated and when I do have an interview, it's a mix of excitement blended with I can't emotionally take on another endless process?

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1. AnonymousJanuary 31,2023 at 6:09PM UTC

   What about temp agencies or pick up contact work for the time being? Even if it's part time work. There's a few creative agencies that specifically cater to marketing pros. Have you also thought about becoming a factional CMO for small businesses? It could be a good side hustle to spin up, too.

   I totally feel you and sincerely believe a breakthrough is coming -- all you need is one "yes." While the job market is weird as hell right now (the "copycat hiring freeze" gave me chuckle because it's soooo annoyingly true lol), don't give up. It sounds like you're doing all the right things but I would definitely continue to keep your professional networks active and continue to take meetings, in-person or digital sessions to connect with other marketing professionals.

   What about digital workshops or conferences that are free? Or virtual career fairs? Also, if you've received any feedback from past interviews, is there an opportunity to take free online courses to grow your skills while you're in the "waiting period?" I think it could be nice change from constantly looking; gotta take time to learn, rest and try it all again another day.

   FairygodBoss has hosted resume drops in the past but there are other orgs out there doing the same thing and you can get connected with recruiters.

   I know it's easier said than done but don't give up! Please make time for some serious self-care too. You've earned it. The job is coming.

2. AnonymousJanuary 31,2023 at 6:10PM UTC

   Forgot to add: https://fairygodboss.com/articles/14-hiring-companies-that-are-looking-to-hire-people-like-you

   FGB community just dropped that article -- in case you missed it!

3. Susan Sims-PrittsJanuary 31,2023 at 9:12PM UTC

   Self confidence and a sense of humor are some of the most attractive and compelling features, in addition to the obvious message of competence sent by a good cover letter and resume. If you know anyone in the field where you're looking, talk with them and get a critique for a re-write, ask for an introduction, take some risks... join some professional women's groups... think outside of the box. You'll get there. Lighten up... the clouds always part in the darkest hour.....

4. Maggie SmithFebruary 1,2023 at 1:22PM UTC

   Don't despair. My husband went through something similar. Then one day a staffing agency offered him a contractor position and then he transitioned into full time. I think in these times contractor route may be easier with the hiring freezes.

5. Bonnie CoventryFebruary 1,2023 at 2:32PM UTC

   IMO you may just need an interviewing coach. Love the research and being prepped, so many don't value that part of the process. Believe me, it shows. Also, if you are given names on the interviews (or panels) prior do your research there too. Do mock interviews with a trusted confidante. Know what you need to pay the bills then add 20-30% to that. Start there. Your ask may be too high still. The position is out there, you just haven't been introduced to it yet. Being ghosted after an interview isn't a best practices and I see that a common practice. That needs to change. You could follow up with your contact there and ask for feedback. That continues the dialogue. Be receptive as during that time is not for but I do have..... There are so many jobs out there, after holiday retail jobs may be fewer but don't give up! Good luck!

6. AnonymousFebruary 1,2023 at 6:14PM UTC

   This sounds so frustrating, and I want to say, keep going. It's tough and it sucks but it sounds like you have the determination and resilience to do it. Have you tried a more casual approach to networking? Messaging someone just to say hi, recommend a book, share something funny, comment on something posted, etc. It has nothing to do with work, it's just connecting with a human. See how that goes and if it naturally opens any doors. I know it's the worst, but keep knocking. Someone will answer. Also, interviews are just a conversation. You're there to learn about the other person, role and company just as much as they learn about you. Before your next one, do some breathing exercises - heck, have a glass of wine - if that makes you feel more relaxed and open.

7. AnonymousFebruary 1,2023 at 7:17PM UTC

   Know this, you are not alone. It is often taking 3-6 months to find a new role and the data suggests in some regions longer. Be prepared.

   Ask the right questions in the first call, how long is the process, who is the final decision maker, is there a test, when do you need someone to start, why is the role open, who will this person work with and for. Find out the details about the entire strategic process they have to fill the role. That will also be a clear or unclear indication of how organized they are. If it's a replacement ask why the last person left. Often you will find out why its not the right place for you. Take the time to look for companies that interest you and not just ones that are hiring. Find your passion and limit how many hours per day you spend on looking. Take the time for your mental health, your frustration and angst may just be showing up in your interviews. Keep going, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

8. AnonymousFebruary 3,2023 at 12:33AM UTC

   Agree! We have to ask specific questions at the beginning of the process.

9. AnonymousFebruary 1,2023 at 11:53PM UTC

   I understand exactly how you feel.

   The job hunting process can be debilitating, especially if you are a senior executive.

   Some potential solutions:
   -Recognize that the recruitment process is inherently inefficient and *don’t engage emotionally.*
   -You justifiably sound very tired. Can you take a break for yourself every day to rejuvenate? Exercise that you enjoy will help you clear your head and brings physical benefits (strength, stamina) as well as emotional ones (increased endorphin levels.) Spending time in nature and/or with music can be helpful. The point is that it is important to give yourself time to rejuvenate.
   -Is there any side hustle that you can undertake to keep cash coming in? Can you reduce expenses and anxiety by changing your living situation (moving in with family or friends? renting out a room in your apartment or home?)
   -Can you undertake some consulting, part-time work or contracting work? Small or medium-sized organizations that are trying to grow to the next level would certainly benefit from your experience. I notice that agencies are providing “fractional CMOS,” so that smaller companies can hire part-time senior marketing support. Perhaps get on the roster or one or more “fractional CMO” agencies?
   -What is your geographic scope? If widening it is possible, that might be beneficial.
   -Know that every turndown gets you one step closer to getting hired for the right job.

10. AnonymousFebruary 2,2023 at 3:55AM UTC

    7 months for me. I know it’s hard, just keep remembering this is just a paycheck to fund the life you are living… it’s not your identity, not your worth - just what you choose to do to fund your life outside of work. Its coming, it is.

11. AnonymousFebruary 2,2023 at 10:08PM UTC

    Thank you all for your advice. I'm so grateful for this group for keeping me sane during this search. I've tried talking with friends and family but they don't get it and think I'm not trying hard enough or back in the day, you could walk into a company and get a job. I explain that even walking into a grocery store you need to submit online. It's a different world! Wishing everyone else that's going through this difficult time all the best!

12. AnonymousFebruary 3,2023 at 12:39AM UTC

    I understand this. I have been through layoffs, and firings (always political-never performance based). You name it. I work at an executive level and the more senior your experience is, it can sometimes take longer to land the next adventure. Sounds like you're doing everything right! Are you also connecting with recruiting firms that specialize in marketing and have you gotten any professional input on your linkedin and resume? When we get to that point of downgrading our experience and get into the energy of I need a paycheck, I think it creates a vibe that's palpable to potential organizations. Please keep us posted so we can support you during this difficult time (insert heart emoji here).

13. Katherine Metres Akbar, Interview Coach & Resume ExpertFebruary 3,2023 at 1:36PM UTC

    Yes, there is! For one, reaching out for help from your sisters, which you have now done. Good job.

    First of all, I'm sorry companies have been rude to you by ghosting you. I run a career coaching and resume writing business, so I have encountered the complaints you have frequently. Societal manners continue to decline, and there is an impact on candidates. Mark them down as places you would not recommend to work at.

    Second, please take care of yourself emotionally. I hear that you "can't take a break as I'm running out of funds." I get that there are circumstances, and yet, you can do whatever you choose. Maybe taking a two-day break to refresh and renew your spirit would make all the difference in getting a new job faster. (It takes our clients only two to three months.) Use this time to grieve how difficult this has been. Cry, scream, journal, walk in nature, get a professional or partner/friend massage. When your well of bad feelings has been emptied, use the rest of the time to get excited about the perfect new job to which you are going to connect at the perfect time. Watch or read The Secret, which is about using your thoughts and emotions to draw what you want to you fast.

    Third, you may want to get interview help. It sounds like you are getting plenty of interviews, just not offers, so your resume and cover letter are working for you. Focus on what's not working: your interview skills. All the reasons companies gave for not hiring you are not the emotional reasons, the real drivers of decision making. The reality is you weren't the one they most liked, trusted, and felt confident about, and you can be that person by bringing your best interpersonal and interviewing skills to the interview.

    I've put together my best wisdom on Interview Aikido, our proprietary interview technique, in a five-minute video on our YESwriting website. Go to the Resources tab, and click on Interviewing, and it's the video where I'm in a green jacket. If you want personalized help, book a consultation.

    Hang in there, my dear. Better things are ahead for you! I know it's a cliche, but I love it anyway: remember that it's always darkest just before the dawn.

14. AnonymousFebruary 3,2023 at 2:47PM UTC

    I felt like I was writing my own story, just in a different field. Good luck to you.