Hoping for more verbal acknowledgment
Anonymous
Hoping for more verbal acknowledgment
I'm a part of a small non-profit organization where everyone knows everyone. In general, the team members are friendly with each other and I have a good working relationship with my direct supervisor/manager.
I can't help but notice that whenever we report our work during meetings, my manager consistently shields my part of the work without giving credits, even for projects where I gave 90% of the contribution if not more. For example, during full team meetings where everyone gives generic reports of what they have been working on, the manager would phrase my parts of the work as "Oh we did this thing and it was great", or "This change was a great idea and worked so well".
At first, I wondered if I was being over-sensitive, that I should feel completely OK for my manager to sum up my work without giving credit because she and I are a mini team and all my work is supposedly under her supervision. But as I started to observe how other supervisors presented their part of the work, I couldn't help but notice some level of "unfairness" because other supervisors would always mention who did what, along with some small compliments. The compliments could range from managing big events to helping with tiny details (such as setting up chairs). Small gesture, but a big emotional support and professional motivation.
Two more details on top of all:
- I have been doing my job well. My work has not been "substandard" that my manager feels I did not deserve accreditation, she would've said I'm an exceptional employee
- The manager has given compliments for other big or little things done by other employees who are not her direct reports
Like I mentioned before, I would still say my manager and I have a good working relationship and we've gotten to know each other well over time. I would not want to ruin it, and I don't believe my manager had the negative intention of purposely ignoring my credits. My best guess is that -- she's so used to sum us up as a "team" and might have simply forgotten about mentioning me. It may just be her personal habit to report her work in this manner, and she was unaware of these "feelings" from me because I have never directly addressed this with her. (I tried to give it enough time to prove my observation, to see if all supervisors across the organization maintain the same attitude about noting or not noting special efforts from employees.)
I don't think this is serious enough to bring to HR's attention. In the past, I tried to manually amend the situation by lightly catching up to areas where I should be credited, such as "Yes this project went great as my manager has mentioned, and I am happy to see the results of my work". But now I'm a bit weary of needing to catch all these myself, and it could feel discouraging from consistently...not acknowledged.
Should I continue to play it lightly? Or directly address this in a private but respected conversation?


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