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I have been in my position for over a year, gone above and beyond whenever asked, volunteered to take on additional responsibilities and am delivering unprecedented results at a rate of 2x the previous person in this position who did not take on any additional responsibilities.

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I have been in my position for over a year, gone above and beyond whenever asked, volunteered to take on additional responsibilities and am delivering unprecedented results at a rate of 2x the previous person in this position who did not take on any additional responsibilities. I was promised a review and raise at six months; however, the company started a restructuring and it was tabled. Approaching my one year anniversary, I requested my review from my new Director and was told that she will review me after SHE has been there for a year. I then created a self-evaluation form, completed it and included forms to solicit input from managers and supervisors who could attest to my performance over the past year. I received the response that while appreciated, I was not hired to give HR input and they are not going to give me an annual review. Since that time, I have witnessed two male counterparts be given promotions with raises. Surely the Director met with them to do this. Now my position, for a nearby location with this company, is being advertised starting at a higher pay rate than mine. How do I again respectfully request my review and an appropriate pay increase? Love what I do, but am becoming more and more resentful of being used to perform duties above my paygrade and delivering results that make my Director look good while I am her "secret weapon" kept in the shadows.

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  1. Anonymous

    Let it go. Apply for the new position at the other company. This company has told you how they value you (they don't) and what they are going to do for you (nothing) so you need to believe what they are clearly communicating and move on to your next position. Good luck.

  2. Anonymous

    I'm afraid you been given the definitive answer. If you request the same review and raise, expect the same response.

    Since you love what you do, enjoy it and keep your expectations in check. Unless you decide to leave, no great swings in comp will come your way until the leadership decides. Just as they decided your male counterparts were worthy.

  3. Anonymous

    Sorry, but you sound like an absolute nightmare to work with. You dont give anyone space , just charge ahead thinking you know better tban everyone else. You may well be correct, you may be the smartest one in the room but you are no team player. The gall of writing your own review and soliciting documented feedback from other managers! That is so funny and incredibly bad corporate etiquette. Instead of helping and getting to know your new manager you immediately try and undermine her and make her look bad by all this shenanigans. Pull yourself in, enjoy the job and stop trying to run everything, either that or go start your own business and you be the boss. Wake up you little go getter you. I mean all of this with kindness.

  4. JJ

    I think this is too harsh.

    If this person comes from companies where there are HR SOPs and reviews are expected but here only men are getting to sit down and have those conversations, she has to take matters into her own hands up to a point. This idea of protecting one’s lame manager and working harder on conforming to the corporate world could easily be gender bias or racism in disguise. Also, what normal, productive corporate culture doesn’t have a formal review process and hires managers who don’t know how to implement them? This company sounds like the nightmare and while the poster is wasting her time, she likely grew up in a world where she was told that if she works harder she would be rewarded for it.

  5. Anonymous

    I am sorry if that is your opinion of me. I sought outside guidance of a professional to prevent overstepping and not be a bull in the China shop as farvas the self evaluation. Regardless, I will be embarking on a new job search. I am more comfortable in an environment where expectations atr clear and when met or surpassed, communication is also clear as to the outcome and future expectations. That has always been my experience in 38 years in Corp America and this was my first experience in my retirement job in a non-profit. Thank you for sharing your perspective.

  6. Anonymous

    I think you have all the potential to enjoy your job and be a part of the team. You are just so focused on being fabulous no one else has a chance to breathe. Thats why you aren’t getting the signals that folks want to work with you and HR is giving you like warm answers. They are wrong of course. You should absolutely be receiving timely reviews. All that is true. But the reality is you are working for an organization that has its own way of doing things and no one is interested in your opinion of how things should be. You clearly have a great deal to offer and care …read the room. You’re in a company that doesn’t value you. This will happen and it’s not you. Your problem is you’re resisting the truth of it. I have worked with people who struggle this way and it’s frustrating to see and it freaks out those who are happy to be mediocre. You are not happy with that and need to go somewhere that has happy high achievers… not easy to find these days by the way. I have been in your position and got bloodied fighting against the grain and having an attitude that I knew best. Looking back I did and I didn’t. This was not my own company, no one asked me to kill myself or be the star. It’s complicated but you seem like a very smart and driven person and need to find where you are best utilized. In the meantime you are driving yourself an your colleagues crazy. This is meant with kindness because I’m taking the time to telll you the truth.

  7. Anonymous

    There was nothing kind or constructive about your reply. Having to state you meant it with kindness suggests you knew it was not at all kind. “Wake up you little go getter you”.

    I read the OP’s post as desperation for wanting to stay in a company and role she has been enjoying but seeking the compensation that is deserved.

    I can only assume you have been the new manager with an employee who reported to you that was the “go getter” and made you feel inadequate and insecure in your role and so you are commenting with such a lack of sympathy and constructive suggestions, because you are still hurt by that.

  8. M Baaza

    Wow, you woke up on the interesting side of the bed...this reply is a little harsh

    Don't you think so?

  9. Anonymous

    That’s the thing about going above and beyond. it’s accepted but not appreciated, by most companies. I see people who charm managers and move ahead a lot faster. I would look for a new job that will pay you what you want and deserve.

  10. Anonymous

    I’ve been in your shoes. It’s never gonna happen. I was finally let go after giving my boss the idea to consolidate two teams to create a role to promote me into. They hired a man outside the company. Stop going above and beyond. Stop asking. Start looking for a new job. They don’t see your value as a leader, only a worker bee. That’s where they will keep you.

  11. Anonymous

    Thanks for your insight. I agree...the writing is on the wall. So sorry that you went through this too.

  12. Anonymous

    I cringed when you mentioned implementing your own self-review. While appreciate the sentiment behind it, that was not the way to win favor with anyone and while fair or not, that likely hurt you.

    Your best bet is to apply for the position at the other company.

  13. Kat

    Stop wasting your time with this company and this position. They're not going to promote you. Your boss and HR have made that very clear. Time to put your energy into finding a new job, either internally or externally. I'd suggest outside the company, since there seem to be clear road blocks to advancement at this company due to its structure. You also don't know if there will be more company restructuring/shuffling around in the future. In the mean time, stop doing extra work. It's not going to get you anywhere. Stick to your job description duties and do only those. If things fall by the way side, fine. If your director stops looking good, that's not your problem. You've been told to stay in your lane, so do that.

  14. Anonymous

    Yes, I agree. Time to start the search in earnest.

  15. Sara Kathleen J Jones

    Stop going above and beyond until such time as you get your review, the situation is of your own making.
    Report to hr your difficulties for posterity. You don't get to choose to do the work and then complain when your not recognized for it. This is a personal boundary issue.. the self evaluation: cringey.

  16. Anonymous

    I disagree with reporting anything to HR since HR has already pushed back on her for crossing lines by taking initiative to try to get what she needs from her leadership team. This role is a dead end but keeping things cordial and stable while she looks for a new job will ensure that she has a steady paycheck until she has a replacement income.

  17. Anonymous

    Reporting anything to HR at this point would seem to be a death wish, I agree with you. Trying to keep things cordial and not throw a direct supervisor under the bus as I see that no good would come from that...no review and no future reference if ever needed.

  18. Anonymous

    The self evaluation was based on advice from a professional career coach who helped craft it as she viewed it to be a point of reference issue for the new director. Since I had self evaluations to complete prior to annual reviews at my previous employer, that seemed logical.

  19. Anonymous

    The coach was wrong.

  20. Stacey Hadfield Lowe

    I don't agree with this. She was promised a review at 6 months that didn't happen. Can you make a case for discrimination as your male peers were given reviews under the new director and you were denied?

  21. Igor Hallo

    interesting

  22. JJ

    Interesting that you emphasize “respect” when you are being shown none. I would not suggest going in guns blazing and using a highly disrespectful tone, but they are clearly not going to jump into action. Being respectful is about being honest and you need to be very frank with these people about your expectations. This has only ever worked for me when I was 100% committed to quitting and I had nothing to lose. It’s shocking, but when somebody is very good at what they do, and they’re hard to replace, some management teams will go to great lengths to keep them in their place.

  23. Anonymous

    You certainly deserve an evaluation at the end of one year.. Or close to the anniversary date... Everything else sounds like a jumble of poor leadership... Apply for the other position with higher salary. And if you don't receive favorable outcome start looking for another job

  24. M Baaza

    Dust that resume and go apply elsewhere.....

  25. Anonymous

    Unfortunately you've only been there a year.....and going above and beyond is not an automatic raise or promotion.

  26. Anonymous

    Apply for the other job.

  27. Anonymous

    Apply to that other role. If you feel you have experienced sexism and bias bring that up to the CEO of the company and be loud enough about it. If they value you as an employee they will do something to shift your comp and role and if not then you know how little they truly value you in the team. Good luck.

  28. Kathy

    Is your company advertising 'your' position? In other words, are they looking to replace you?

    How long were the people that were promoted in their positions before they were promoted and given raises?

  29. Anonymous

    I think this reply belongs to another posting?

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