I really need some advice.

I really need some advice. I work for a company that has many opportunities to grow. This includes having programs for short and long-term assignments as part of growth initiatives. In the years that have worked in this company, I've always had successful end-of-the-year reviews but for some reason when I request to participate in a short-term assignment, I am told no and I can't afford to lose you. Most of my 1:1 are canceled or done in 5-7 minutes without content related to work but since I have always been seen as an outstanding performer, I didn't really give it much thought until now. I completed my mid-year review for 2023 with objectives completed and exceeding in some cases along with positive feedback from my customers that I have worked with in 2023. When I read my mid-year from my manager, he provided unrelated and false narratives about my character and work. For example, stated I had projects when I didn't. He me for missing a team meeting in writing so I could handle the priority work that he gave me but told me even though I said yes, it doesn't mean I validated it as being Ok. Please keep in mind, the 1:1 meeting only last 30 minutes with him playing trivia games with the team. So work related actions were ever missed and with the canceled 1:1 no feedback of missing anything was ever verbalized or noted. Lastly, stated I took the same vacation in December at the same time as the previous year even though he approved the vacation. There is indeed more but I am completely taken aback. Even with the support of peers outside the group and going back and forth with HR to clear things up. I feel completely violated. What makes it worse, this manager didn't even read my mid-year but just provided un-warranted feedback. HELP

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  1. Anonymous

    Time to transfer away from your boss. Meanwhile, follow up all conversations with an email. He will know you are documenting and likely escalate but you are being pushed out the door. This website is full of people who were/are on your track and there’s a definite absence of people who turned things around and rebuilt a relationship that was at the point yours is with your boss. Good Luck! There are a ton of great jobs out there, and you are definitely deserving of one of them.

  2. Anonymous

    Thank you so much for the feedback and advice. I am working to get out.

  3. Anonymous

    Document everything in writing and always request a reschedule of canceled 1:1.

    All you can do is Document with as much interaction as possible including follow-up emails summarizing the correction of false information, incorrect data points, etc.

    Diligence is key. No one is going to intervene unless you force the issue.

    Your documentation is your only defense.

  4. Anonymous

    have HR sit in on your 1-1's and see if that shifts his behavior. If it doesn't then its time to look for a new employer that cares about your career.

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