I would like anyone’s insight who works in education.

Anonymous

December 9,2023 at 5:37PM UTC

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I would like anyone’s insight who works in education. For starters I substitute as a Paraeducator. I live in a small town and prior to subbing when my daughter was in school It felt either hostile or rumours are spreading. I was gone for 22 years. I will not commit to full time there as the culture is a hot mess. Nothing is confidential because everyone has family who works in the system. I went to another district for a few months last year and now back in new district. It seems as though I am black marked or someone spread a lie on the tip line. All staff in all schools trying to make me uncomfortable and say things to bait and switch. Giving me side eyes. Prompting other people to look at me discretely. I am also being followed because I see many employees in stores that I never did and I grew up with them. They pretend they don’t see me. Just off and bizarre behavior. They demean me and play a lot of mind games. Any tips or advice besides looking for a new job. Is this the culture? Are they Pushing me out? I am worried black marks on my name and i take pride in my reputation. I also find the behavior unethical and illegal but many of the teachers husbands are cops and sheriffs. One admin said the Principle husband she sends to follow employees who call out. It’s creeping me out.

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utpala deviDecember 11,2023 at 6:25PM UTC
Great advice!
AnonymousDecember 14,2023 at 6:52AM UTC
It's a small town. All the counties here super small. No big city around just small ones that all the teachers have most likely worked at and all talk. My name has gone to a few different districts and I hop around because the toxicity with leadership is so bad. They are mad I won't commit but I can't with how poor they treat me. Its constant targeting. I went to high school with many and I left for years. Rumor are flaring out of control. Its been stressful for my kid as she has felt the brunt of this madness. I've had two coworkers knocking on my door. I'm pretty sure they follow me. The admin admitted they do that. Just weird behaviors. Then you have teachers who's husband in law and add that to the shenanigans. It is middle school all over again. You're right. Anything I say is used against me. Its like they are entitled to be in your business and have blinders on most healthy individuals do not act like this. I'm going to try your comments and calmly deliver the messages. Adults should know better. They said gossip is normal. Well ok. However you want to justify your naughtiness. I find it creates discord. Nothing good ever comes from hurting someone else.
AnonymousDecember 14,2023 at 8:25PM UTC
Yes, you said it correctly. I try not to internalize it. I told the coworker who showed at my door what did she want? She said "I just want a friend." Its all bs. Its a set up of some sort. I didn't answer my door. She sat outside and then the following week she appeared out of nowhere in the grocery store staring at me. I left. Then she called me twice saying she broker her hand and wanted to do lunch. Nuh uh. It all smells bad. Very controlling. How can I go to HR if they sent her? They are making up countless stories. Its pretty obvious. She text me the day school started and said "miss you wish you here at training." but only spoke to me when it was convenient for her or do "lunch" Its all to collect information to use against me. They have painted a picture of me that I'm some horrifying Mom but its gone all over town and its hard not to care when they are trying to make a stake on your name to prove you are unfit. But I'm good enough to work in the shools? Make it make sense. It is all stalker behavior. Its why I left moons ago. Now my neighbor is over here trying to start a story that we aren't happy and blah blah. Looking all around my house and trying to make it out my kid is happier around them. My daughter has picked up on all of this and now she's against me. Its frustrating to say the least. I am leaving and I'm applying elsewhere. I'm not sure if I can file a report. Its the principal husband who's a sheriff and who I believe was outside my home the day I went back to school. These people are sick. No doubt in my mind. Its hard when I should be filing a lawsuit but no one wants to deal with it I don't think. I appreciate you and your words. I feel crazy at this point with all the backlash. They are all in cahoots with one another and I'm not playing the game. They seem nervous. Can't imagine why. Checking up on me non stop to see what I'm up to. Too much. Just too much. ITs overbearing. They are making it out that my thinking is wrong and I'm paranoid. That's how they flip it on me to make me question myself.
AnonymousDecember 15,2023 at 8:19PM UTC
Thank you. I'm trying hard to get out. Its definitely years over due. I am not one to get stuck but somehow I did.
AnonymousDecember 18,2023 at 7:31PM UTC
Thank you. I appreciate all your helpful and supportive comments. :)