I have a question and a bit of a rant at the same time.

45 Comments

1. Cindy GrossJuly 20,2023 at 6:28PM UTC

   One option might be to find a more generic contact email like "recruiters@company" and say something like "I understand the recruiter I was working with was called away for an emergency, is there anyone else I can work with"

2. Alice MeyerJuly 20,2023 at 6:31PM UTC

   Definitely find another contact at the company. If you want this job, find a way to contact someone- maybe by going to the website. Good luck!

3. AnonymousJuly 20,2023 at 6:46PM UTC

   Ghosting is extremely common. Extremely. So use your good judgement on putting this recruiter on blast. Be professional and handle yourself accordingly.

   Chances are very good she set up 20 different calls that day. I would manage your expectations in the future because this is NOT going to be the last time this happens. Prepare yourself.

4. sayantika mukherjeeJuly 20,2023 at 7:12PM UTC

   It's completely understandable that you feel frustrated and disappointed by the unprofessional behavior of the recruiter. Being stood up for an interview is not only disrespectful but also reflects poorly on the company's overall professionalism and management.

   While it may be tempting to warn others about the interview process and the recruiter's behavior, it's essential to approach this situation thoughtfully and consider the potential repercussions. Here are some points to consider before taking any action:

   1. Consider Your Reputation: Before sharing your experience publicly, think about how it might impact your own professional reputation. While warning others can be helpful, it's crucial to do so in a constructive and measured manner to avoid any negative associations with your name.

   2. Address It Privately First: If you haven't received a response to your initial email, consider sending a follow-up email expressing your disappointment and concern regarding the missed interview. Give the recruiter a chance to explain and apologize for the no-show before taking any further action.

   3. Anonymous Reviews: If you still feel compelled to share your experience, you can consider leaving an anonymous review on Glassdoor or other job review platforms. Be factual and objective in your review, focusing on the missed interview and its impact on your perception of the company's professionalism.

   4. Focus on Improvements: When sharing your experience, emphasize the need for improvements in the company's interview scheduling and communication process rather than solely criticizing the recruiter. Highlighting areas for improvement can be more constructive and may prompt the company to address the issue.

   5. Move On Gracefully: Ultimately, if you decide to walk away from this potential job opportunity, do so gracefully. There's no need to burn bridges or engage in any negative behavior. Thank the recruiter for her time (if she responds) and focus on finding better opportunities elsewhere.

   It's essential to protect your own professional image while providing constructive feedback. It's unfortunate that you had this experience, but the way you handle it can demonstrate your own professionalism and integrity to potential future employers. Keep your focus on finding the right job fit for your skills and career aspirations. Good luck!

5. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 12:56PM UTC

   Is there a reason why your pasting AI responses into every thread? Seriously, what is your goal here?

6. AnonymousJuly 20,2023 at 7:21PM UTC

   I see the other notes but to be honest 24 hours is NOT a long time. It is NOT good to judge on that alone.

7. AnonymousJuly 20,2023 at 7:51PM UTC

   Disagree. 24 hours is wayyyyy too long to wait to apologize and explain why you stood someone up for an interview.

8. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 5:01AM UTC

   What if the person is in hospital or even dead? Give grace, we are humans, not machines. Even machines break down.

9. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 1:00PM UTC

   Exactly what I thought. Emergencies with anyone attached to HR are a big deal and it could be ongoing. I honestly wouldn’t want to hire OP with this kind of expectation that no one ever be human.

10. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 4:08PM UTC

    OP here. Glad some others see it differently and feel the company should have reached out. This is not the first time an interview has been rescheduled due to a scheduling conflict/emergency, but it sure is the first time I absolutely was ghosted for an interview wtih zero contact. I gave it 48 hours. That's enough time.

11. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 11:10PM UTC

    Again, to you. But since you don't know what was going on, you're creating high expectations and I expect that any job you ever have is going to let you down hard at some point by not meeting your expectations. It's great that you have high expectations for how you want to be treated, but remember that people are going to screw up, and someday you will be the one that screws and you're going to wish someone gave you grace.

12. AnonymousJuly 22,2023 at 4:35PM UTC

    Then when she called the person she spoke to should have said there was an emergency and it may take some time to get back to her. They don’t need to give details, but at least let the person l know they weren’t simply blown off and that it may take time to get back to them.

13. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 11:59AM UTC

    Wow, IMO that's very judgmental and since they haven't hired you, a little space of understanding wouldn't do you any harm. Kindness first.

14. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 12:57PM UTC

    When you called the number you were told she was in emergency meeting.

    If it was an emergency she may not have had time to send a courtesy email to tell you there was a problem before going into the meeting.

    If the emergency is ongoing, 24 hours is nothing. In fact, it’s nothing in normal situations.

    Have you considered what an emergency means for someone who works in the HR Dept? It means an employee went ape s***, or died, or the board just brought down the hammer about something. Recruiters are typically wearing two hats or ten in HR these days.

    So yes, you’re frustrated, but you also need to take a breath and a beat. Give this human being the benefit of the doubt. Everyone deserves it. Even HR and recruiters, and yes, even when they ghosted you or didn’t do everything to your expectations. And yes, candidates should be treated well; accidents happen, emergencies happen… and if you were whatever employee was part and parcel to the emergency on the other end do you want her prioritizing a candidate or you? She can’t be everywhere and can’t be perfect. And unless you’ve never screwed up at work or forgotten about someone…

    To note: I am not a recruiter and don’t work in HR. I just believe that your expectations of humans in emergencies are a bit shortsighted.

15. Lisa MarieJuly 23,2023 at 6:37PM UTC

    I was looking at the reviews for someone with this same thought as mine.

    How, and why does anyone expect an "emergency" to be over so that "we can get back to our regularly scheduled program" in a short amount of time, is beyond thoughtless.

    It is selfish.

    Yes, the OP needs a job and 1 day feels like 10 days, but it seems no one has any *grace* to give anyone elae these days.

    Why be vindictive and go post reviews anywhere?

    The time one takes to be angry/annoyed and spend on posting a review, would be better spent applying foe another job, or follwoing up with someone else at that company, or better yet, taking a relaxing "me time bath."

    Too much "flesh hunters" exist in today's world.

16. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 1:38PM UTC

    I think regulating your emotions and calming down is the best path forward. As has been stated, this is a very common occurrence.

17. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 2:22PM UTC

    I also believe that a breath or two is in order. Have you followed up to try and see if anyone else can talk to you? An "emergency meeting" could mean many things, including her being out of the office for a significant amount of time. If the emergency is ongoing, someone else should be picking up what she was doing.

18. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 2:31PM UTC

    Thank you everyone for your comments. I never got a response. I did take the 48 hours to cool off and I will be writing a review on Glassdoor. That recruiter does need to be put on blast because it's highly unprofessional and was a huge waste of my time.

    I don't think this will affect anything other than not being hired at this company where I clearly don't want to work.

    I do consider it highly unprofessional that someone else didn't get in touch with me if such an emergency took place that she personally couldn't email. Yes, I get it, things happen...and I gave it enough time to realize they were never getting back to me via my email and the message I left at the office for her.

    Moving onward because there has to be a better company to work for. I am not happy with how that was handled.

    I did give it the benefit of the doubt at first, but by the end of the day was annoyed I didn't hear anything from anyone, and now another full day went by, and no response. It's just unprofessional at this point.

19. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 4:06PM UTC

    I left a message and sent her an email. Two attempts is enough in my book. After 48 hours, my review was posted on Glassdoor. Also, as I wrote, they've done this to other people as well during this process, so I'm hardly the only one. A few others put them on blast as well.

20. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 6:16PM UTC

    I would reach out to the owner/manager and give them a chance to respond within 48 hours if no response take to glassdoor and write what you dealt with. Not everyone at the place will be bad and if that one recruiter is the problem they need to know and you can also block them for all future communications.

21. AnonymousJuly 21,2023 at 6:31PM UTC

    Yes, that one recruiter is the problem but she has worked there for 13 years. I say she is the problem because I'm not the only one this happened to. As I posted below, I did wait 48 hours and then wrote about my experience on Glassdoor. It's anonymous and I did not use her name, but I've seen the owner respond to other people who complained about the company so I know she gets these alerts. However, that recruiter has been with them a long time so I don't know why or how this could be accepable at this point.

22. AnonymousJuly 22,2023 at 12:32PM UTC

    I am blown away at the number of people in this thread who think it is OK, or make excuses to keep you hanging. Once you called the main office and were given the reasoning, that should have put in motion an effort to have someone get in touch with you, even if it was, “I am so sorry, Mary will be unavailable through Friday but we will get back to you next week.” (You should not even have had to call, but once you did it was on the radar that a stakeholder had not been properly taken care of.) People are understanding that things happen but not COMMUNICATING with candidates, or even making a token effort to do so, is unacceptable.

    OP, you were totally justified in a Glassdoor review after being ignored for two days.

23. Kristen MillsJuly 22,2023 at 12:36PM UTC

    You are interviewing the company as much as they are interviewing you. My thought is if the recruiter cant even communicate well, then what about the rest of the company? Im not saying the rest wouldnt communicate well but its a major red flag to me.

24. AnonymousJuly 22,2023 at 12:51PM UTC

    It’s bad service period, and represents that company’s brand. If you would Yelp it for a business, post it on Glassdoor to let others know. They potentially just lost another fan/customer. Either way, you dodged a bullet early and can move on!

25. GirlBossanova934974July 22,2023 at 1:52PM UTC

    Frankly, I would save the rants etc for another time and place. I would NOT be the least upset! Not in the least. This company is telling you LOUD AND CLEAR that timeliness is not something they value! Period! Do you want to work with people like this? Probably not from what I am reading. SO this company saved you a bunch of trouble finding this out after you hired on. Believe me! You are far better off finding out about this now. There are many more jobs out there.

26. AnonymousJuly 22,2023 at 2:15PM UTC

    Personally I may have checked up on this person to ensure they were okay, but I am a burn me once I’m done type. It reflects poorly on the company and the level of disrespect would likely continue on the job.

27. Robin ThomasJuly 22,2023 at 2:50PM UTC

    I've been unemployed for 6 months now after my last company was acquired. I will tell you the behavior is now a "new normal". I've stopped counting how many times this has happened to me. Chalk it up as a new experience and move on. Spend your energy on finding the next great opportunity. Best of luck!

28. AnonymousJuly 22,2023 at 4:25PM UTC

    Let it go. Easier said than done. Focus your energy on finding the position that is right for you. Keep your head up and best of luck in your search! Be patient and keep faith that YOUR NEXT JOB is coming to you!

29. Looking for a changeJuly 22,2023 at 7:23PM UTC

    I think if you can post a review anonymously do it without giving too much information. Otherwise move on

30. AnonymousJuly 22,2023 at 10:50PM UTC

    Let it go. You never know what is going on in someone else’s life. It’s best to assume her intentions were good and something legitimate came up to prevent the interview. You also don’t know how or when you’ll run into people in the future. You gain nothing by being vindictive. Take the high road and move on.

31. AnonymousJuly 23,2023 at 12:21PM UTC

    You are spending way too much time on this.

32. Mele SalmondJuly 23,2023 at 12:38PM UTC

    Hi

    Just let it go and be glad you was able to experience the unprofessionalidm and tackiness that this manager displayed. If you were hired by her, she would may have been a miserable person work with.

33. AnonymousJuly 23,2023 at 12:51PM UTC

    Many of the “recruiters” are a farce. I can’t count the number of emails I receive from Indeed, Glassdoor and others which were scams. I had successfully interviewed with a recruiting group once. It turned out to be a scam. They wanted all of my information such as SSN, direct deposit etc, and THEN I would receive a phone call from the company. Sure…I’ll give you my personal information. <sarcasm>. Be cautious!

34. Anne Marie HJuly 23,2023 at 1:50PM UTC

    I know how you might really want a pound of flesh, but in the end, you may not get any satisfaction...hell, you may have even dodged-a-bullet. Job hunting isn't for the faint-of-heart, it is often fraught with rejection which can turn an otherwise sunny disposition "sour" which can detract from even the most qualified candidate. Imagine your jobhunt is like an election: you're trying to win votes, so be winsome, shrug-off negativity wherever encountered, but if it inevitably shows up, try doing something that builds your self-worth (show up at your community food pantry and volunteer your time, offer to pack bags or load groceries in their client's cars, carry some for clients who walk). After a week of rejections, you'd be surprised how "filled-up" your self-worth cup gets when your assistance is welcomed & appreciated! Even bringing a case of cold water to the workers & the clients waiting to be served would be well-received! Nothing like meeting another's need (especially one whose need is great), to make you feel good because you've done good for others with a pure heart, for those who can't pay you back! And if you continue to do so, add THAT to your resume under Community Service," as a Food Pantry Volunteer!

35. Julia LaurenJuly 23,2023 at 1:54PM UTC

    Being ghosted by recruiters is sadly common these days. People “letting it go” is one of the reasons this is so commonplace nowadays, because anything accepted as business as usual will continue. That being said, if they get back to you with an explanation and connect you with someone else, I’d update the Glassdoor review.

36. AnonymousJuly 23,2023 at 2:36PM UTC

    I would move on and be thankful you didn't get interviewed or hired by this company. You should also write a review of your experience, that way applicants may think twice about working for company.

37. AnonymousJuly 23,2023 at 3:54PM UTC

    Let it go.. nothing to be gained by posting a negative review. Just chalk it up as this wasn't the position for you and carry on.

38. AnonymousJuly 23,2023 at 5:23PM UTC

    Actions speak louder than words. If this is the behavior you're experiencing, do you really want to work there?

39. Lisa MarieJuly 23,2023 at 7:14PM UTC

    I'm going to be blunt. OP and others are going to disagree, but my view will still be correct.

    Others have said it, and I'll say it again: Let it go. You can even sing "let it go" in the stlylings of that one Disney Animated movie song to give yourself something to laugh and relax to!

    Because you (OP) obviously need to pause and relax in this situation.

    How, and why does anyone expect an "emergency" to be over so that "we can get back to our regularly scheduled program" within 24-48 hours? Hearing that there is an emergency meeting, and not knowing what the emergency is, and still expecting to get things moving {in your direction again} within 48 hours is actually beyond thoughtless.

    It is selfish.

    Yes, the OP needs a job and when one is unemployed 1 day feels like 10 days, but it seems OP and many others who commented have no *grace* to give anyone else these days.

    Another point some folks will disagree on is **why is there the need to be vindictive and go post reviews anywhere?** Why though?

    The time one takes to be angry/vindictive and spend that time on posting a review, would be better spent applying for another job, orfollowing up with someone else at that company to reschedule the interview, or better yet, taking a relaxing "me time bath," and would be better spent trying to either build positive relationships, or moving on to apply to other jobs altogether.

    Too many "flesh hunters" exist in today's world. And they're using valuable time "getting back at people" instead of moving on with positive thoughts and actions, i.e. finding another opportunity, or anything else that is actuall progressive or beneficial to the OP or others.

    *Move on, and leave them to handle whatever emergency they are living through... and yes, the recruiter had an emergency in the past. So what? I've worked with people who lost both parents 3 days apart, and then an aunt 10 days later... and this was not during/because of covid.

    **BE GRACEFUL** **BE UNDERSTANDING** **BE HUMAN**

40. Sharmil McKeeJuly 24,2023 at 12:04PM UTC

    I happen to agree with you, Lisa. Why do we assume an emergency ends in 24 hours? That's a very good point. As a working parent, I need a little grace (or really a lot of grace) because I am responsible for more than my job. And OP, I suspect there will be a time in the future when you will need some grace too.

    So, I recommend that you simply follow up with the recruiter a few weeks from now. And apparently, the company allows their employees to have emergencies and put their nonworking lives at the top of the To Do list. That's a good thing. So, don't write the company off.

41. Karen P. StoreyJuly 23,2023 at 9:29PM UTC

    Let it go! Success goes to your head, failure to your heart. Speak when you're angry and you will make the best speech you'll ever regret.

    Karen P. Storey, CPC, CTS

42. Crystal HowellJuly 24,2023 at 1:41AM UTC

    Move On, apparently something isn't right, go with your gut. Do you really want to work there?

43. Sharmil McKeeJuly 24,2023 at 12:26PM UTC

    I understand where you are coming from. I am sorry you are going through it. What you are feeling right now is grief masquerading as anger. When the recruiter offered you the interview, you had hope and visions of the future. When she ghosted you, your hopes were lost. Your feelings are legit and a reasonable response to a bad situation. But posting a nasty-gram on the internet, will not help you resolve your grief. Meditation, prayer, journaling, helping others, acceptance, making a gratuity list, and therapy, are activities that will help you make space for your feelings. Grieving takes however long it wants to take. My hope for you is that you will feel better soon. *hug* You are not alone.

44. Titra HamiltonJuly 24,2023 at 3:25PM UTC

    That recruiter did you a favor by now showing up. Despite the good reviews (and we know that companies will have employees post positive reviews to counteract negative ones), that was not a place that you want to be. Imagine what REALLY goes on there. Keep it moving and save your excitement and delight for a company deserving of your time and talents. Good luck.

45. AnonymousJuly 24,2023 at 6:35PM UTC

    Love this attitude! Yes, in the big picture she did me a favor. It’s just frustrating at times and I was really on board with the possibility of working there. However that was last week, this is this week and I’m definitely not thinking about it anymore. I’ve moved on, but I do like that perspective- she did me a favor and imagine what really goes on there. Some of those negative reviews about management were on target, I’m sure.

    Anyway, onward!