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December 15,2023 at 3:06AM UTC

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I have never worked in a corporate setting, do I don’t really have business etiquette. A few weeks ago, my spouse came to my job. One of my coworkers came forward, do I introduced them.

A few weeks later, I went into the specific area where my coworker spends her day. Her husband was there, but I assumed he was a customer. She never introduced us.

The next day the we attended a small corporate event. I was standing near them both and she never bothered to introduce us. A lady walked in, whom she also works closely with and she immediately introduced them.

I wondered why the courtesy was not reciprocated and why she ignored an opportunity as she was being kind in that regard to others. My husband was kind to her also, but it was almost as if I was a stranger off the street.

Am I missing etiquette cues?

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AnonymousDecember 15,2023 at 3:07PM UTC
Is it possible she somehow thought you had already met? Had he been there before? The next time he is at a gathering, take the initiative and introduce yourself.
AnonymousDecember 15,2023 at 5:09PM UTC
90% of the time I introduce myself, unless I know for sure the other person is going to make introductions. I usually know that my boss will make the connections, if I am with my spouse or family, I will introduce myself (my spouse assumes I know who he is talking with).
You can always say I can't remember if we have met or let me reintroduce myself, that has worked several times for me.
AnonymousDecember 16,2023 at 4:13AM UTC
Thank you.
Joan Williams, Senior Talent Acquisition SpecialistDecember 16,2023 at 11:26PM UTC
This is a her problem - don't make it a you problem.
Maybe she's just rude. Maybe she's just got bad manners.
Melissa BarrDecember 18,2023 at 8:21PM UTC
I really wouldn't worry about it. As a spouse, I'd want to make my spouse comfortable when attending events at my work. I'm guessing her moves were made along those lines - if she was even considering a strategy.
She may not have wanted to put her husband in a situation where the attention of more than one person was on him, or she may have wanted to particularly introduce her husband to the other coworker because they had a shared interest or something they could talk about together if she has to step away.
AnonymousDecember 20,2023 at 1:12PM UTC
Please, move on. None of this matters so stop wasting your brain space on these mental gymnastics trying to reverse engineer a solution in search of a problem. You don’t need to be BFF’s with everyone you work with.
AnonymousDecember 26,2023 at 5:11PM UTC
Nope, not at all. Next time extend your hand and say " Hi, I am X I don't believe I know you, what is your name?" That should do it. Some people just forget that you may not have met so take it upon yourself to invite your own intro. I'll bet her response after will be oh sorry I did not realize you had not met.
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