Hello, this may seem like a tuff question to ask, but how would you go about looking for another job when your current job defame you to the point you can't get hired in your city?

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November 6,2023 at 8:55PM UTC

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Hello, this may seem like a tuff question to ask, but how would you go about looking for another job when your current job defame you to the point you can't get hired in your city? Now my "boss" has whatever issue with me to the point that they literally put me in a position of a "scapegoat." When ever there's a problem, I'm blamed for it and they keep leaving their work on me and then harass me because I don't complete it. Because of their lies about me, i can't go a day without at least three "customers" harassing me with things like; "where's your manager, what's wrong, if you don't want to work then quit." If its not that, I'm constantly being forced to work overtime while others can get away with skipping their part of the work. I can handle stressful situations, but it's like my "boss" purposely place me on shifts that triggers my ptsd. I developed that from my first job. And to top that, my "boss" knows that I got a foot injury. The injury was easily manageable, but due to being overworked, I can't properly walk the way I want to, let alone jog. Sorry for my rant. This job is literally messing with my mental health.

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AnonymousNovember 6,2023 at 9:24PM UTC
I would opt for std.
KatNovember 6,2023 at 9:46PM UTC
This work place situation sounds terrible. Hope you can find a new job soon. When you apply for jobs, make sure you check the box that says "do not contact my current employer". Only have references available (if requested) that will say positive things about you. You do not have to list your current manager as a reference, or anyone at the company at all if you don't want to. If your company has an EAP (Employee Assistance Program) use it. Get therapy to manage your mental health and help you cope with your job. Get a doctor's note about your foot injury and any accommodations needed for it. Look for remote work that is outside of your current area too. It might help you get away from this unhealthy situation. Good luck.
AnonymousNovember 6,2023 at 9:49PM UTC
If there are more than a certain number of people there, you can try to get FMLA. Even if it's unpaid leave, there's nothing preventing you from doing something else while seated. Sometimes an accommodation can help with that kind of thing. If it's a small organization, just keep your head up and search for new jobs. Even if they have heard rumors, they may also "consider the source" and discount the things she says. Bad-mouthing employees is as bad as bad-mouthing the boss.
Rosaline GibbonsNovember 8,2023 at 4:13PM UTC
I’m sorry you are going through this. It sounds like your boss wants you out but doesn’t want to terminate you. I would start looking for another job. When asked in the interview why you want to leave the company you are in, just tell them you are looking for opportunities that would allow you to grow and develop your existing skills.
Heather HaalandNovember 11,2023 at 3:05PM UTC
Did you sign any sort of NDA that both sides are expected to adhere to the terms and conditions? I would remind the employer of that agreement as well as document specific examples of how they are breaking their agreement.
AnonymousNovember 13,2023 at 3:05AM UTC
When I applied to work there, there was a nondiscrimination paper that talked about if your manager or work place does that to you. I want to report it, but I'm scared to especially for the fact that I still haven't found another job yet.