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January 12,2024 at 4:55PM UTC

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Looking for advice or a reality check.

I accepted a position in Oct 2023 that was an absolutely amazing opportunity for me. It included an official mgmt title, 2 direct reports, remote position with "some in office during project implementation," and more $ than I have ever beem offered.

I tapped breaks around the in office piece during interview since I need fully remote. The hiring mgr I would report to assured me they would accommodate me and work that it would not be more than maybe 2-3 month every few months. The hiring mgr's mgr clarified 2 weeks together during our testing phase. Both indicated travel would become nonexistent after project go live mid-2024.

Day 1 I learn I am reporting to the hiring mgr's mgr, I have no direct reports, and am a "co-lead" rather than a sole workstream mgr. Conversation clarified reporting structure is temporary and that direct reports "were intended for post go-live". I roll with the changes and try to embrace the opportunity.

Since then I have been struggling to build a relationship with my co-lead, who started outright antagonistcally to me. We also pushed back our go-live to early 2025.

Yesterday I was informed expectations for in office is basically 2 consecutive weeks a month Feb - June with possibility for additional time requirements. My boss emphasizes to me that it is a need of the role and in her right to have me be there, that she is in the middle of a move to Europe and planning a wedding and travels to the office regularly.

I feel like there has been a real bait and switch here. I kmow I should have gotten the travel requirements in writing but the best I got was in writing remote role with up to 10% travel and a handshake understanding they would work with me and I would be willing to come in longer during testing.

I am struggling to not feel bamboozled or to continue investing in the effort to see this as an opportunity for growth and development. I cannot stress how much I do not want to start job hunting again and the amount of doubt I feel about whether I am over-reacting.

Has anyone experienced anything like this? Am I being sensitive, dig my own hole and need to suck this up?

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AnonymousJanuary 12,2024 at 5:39PM UTC
Look for another job if things changed right after you joined.
AnonymousJanuary 12,2024 at 8:09PM UTC
Red flag words: "go live"
They don't know what they're doing and making it up as they go along -- is this a start-up?
You would be within your rights to hold the boss to that agreement, but if it's not in writing as a firm thing, or you don't have legal coverage (like an FMLA issue), you probably won't win on this.
Contact an employment lawyer to see what you can do. Most will give you time on a phonecall for free to see if it's a case they want to take.
AnonymousJanuary 12,2024 at 9:44PM UTC
Bait and switch? You bet. But you can go with flow until you find something. I'm sorry this happened to you.
AnonymousJanuary 14,2024 at 5:58PM UTC
Hi! I'm going through a similar situation since they first promised me a title that I didn't get, opportunities for growth that are now non-existent (since they hired a friend of the CEO for what would have been my promotion position) and my daily tasks don't really match the job description. I still have decent pay and good benefits but I don't see myself here long term. I understand your frustration and also the dread of being on the hunt again, but I'd say keep this one but keep looking! Something better will come along.
AnonymousJanuary 14,2024 at 6:20PM UTC
I had a job where it wasn't exactly a 'bait-and-switch', but the duties I ended up being given to were WAY out of what was talked about upon my hiring, and they refused to discuss other options with me or change anything, i.e. 'you'll figure it out/you can handle it/it has to be done/ you're the only one here'.
My employers may not have seen it as a red flag, but I certainly did. I started looking for other employment not long after starting to work there.
JJJanuary 16,2024 at 1:10AM UTC
Just like people, some companies are jerks too. You are not being sensitive. It sounds like they have changed things from the start.
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