I have been with the company I am currently working for 4years.

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October 16,2023 at 1:46PM UTC

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I have been with the company I am currently working for 4years. There are 2 workers I don’t see eye to eye with and vice versa. They have been there longer so they are the favorites. We recently moved to a new building and all the new workers that came after me have window working areas except me. I have been placed across the office of the director and our new incoming manager. I have been written up before for something petty that the 2 workers reported. I have been very careful ever since. There was a lady who was setting up the phones, she found where I was sitting and said”boy have they moved you around, you were supposed to be over there”. I felt so bad. I am looking for another job which is taking too long. Any advice?

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AnonymousOctober 16,2023 at 3:49PM UTC
As a leader of 35 women, I can tell you that the "she's the favorite" comment is the most frustrating comment you can say to a leader, and I have found it's a default that is used in place of going to your leader and asking them what you can do to improve. I tell my team that everyone can be my "favorite". To be a "favorite" they need to be someone I can depend on, someone who thinks outside of the box and doesn't need constant handholding to get an assigned task completed. I only ever had one employee that came to me to ask me what they needed to do to be assigned projects like one of their peers. That was the first time in 17 years of being in a leadership role that someone took their own inventory to see what if anything they could do. I told the individual exactly what she needed to do, and she went to work showing me I could depend on her when I needed a task completed timely. Going to your leader and asking what can be improved upon is no longer subjective like the "favorite" comment it is something your leader can answer. If you ask that question and they indicate there is nothing, you need to improve upon then it's probably time to get a new job. I can tell you that being placed outside the boss's office isn't always a bad thing. Personally, I put individuals near my office that I knew I would need to interact with frequently.
AnonymousOctober 16,2023 at 4:40PM UTC
4 years is an long time still experiencing such discourse in the team. Not able to build relationships in 4 years even at a professional collaborative level, very disconcerting and I would say all parties need to change mindsets. Too bad, if this is past that, you would be best IMO to leave the org. Really, it's all of you.
AnonymousOctober 16,2023 at 5:10PM UTC
I wouldn't risk being written up again for being petty, so I would leave the seating assigned issue alone. You'll be leaving soon so the seat won't matter soon.
Keep your head down and keep looking for a new job.
Kelly BacelisOctober 16,2023 at 6:39PM UTC
I would probably show effort in my job, even more since you are close to the director and new incoming manager, that is a great opportunity to strengthen your professional abilities and impressing your higher ups, more because your sitting arrangement is closer to them. Make your own sanctuary in your own office and if they ask why you have decorated just say, " well, I would have preferred a window office, but since we don't always get what we want, I created my own sanctuary with the current circumstances". You don't have to share your office space so that's very neat!
Meanwhile, I would encourage you to keep your spirits high and perhaps read the book emotional intelligence. Seems like the work place is possibly ganging up on you and making drama out of nothing. Don't let them break you, if you want to change jobs, have the director and new manager on good standing and ask them for a letter of recommendation when you leave. Respectfully write a letter two week notice thanking for your time being there and let them know when you will be moving to your new job once you are hired.
AnonymousOctober 16,2023 at 7:23PM UTC
Make friends with the new workers. If the two "mean girls/guys" have been getting by on favoritism, you can build up yourself and your new co-workers so that you stand out to the new manager.
AnonymousOctober 17,2023 at 1:11PM UTC
Being placed right next to leadership is a good thing - gives you a chance to show off.
AnonymousOctober 17,2023 at 6:13PM UTC
Thank you everyone, your advice is really helpful. I feel confident
AnonymousOctober 18,2023 at 5:59PM UTC
Being placed near "leadership" is always a good idea. However, I've been made to feel like I was in the wrong whenever they could. It was hopeless and I felt bullied because I was!!! It just goes to show you that if you have been someplace for 4 years in this economy, it almost doesn't matter! People just changed so much over the last few years that I don't really like the feel anywhere! Good Luck.