I've been in my new role five months, but don't like my manager's management style.

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February 16,2024 at 2:34PM UTC

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I've been in my new role five months, but don't like my manager's management style. She's nice, but I don't feel like it's a "match". Should I look elsewhere?

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Maegan, Nike Sales Rep & Career CoachFebruary 16,2024 at 7:44PM UTC
I would ask yourself if you are adaptable (not in your values but in your ability to work with other people) to make it work with this person. I find many many times in our professional lives, 98% of people you have to work with and get things done together will not have the same work ethic, style, or approach as you .
What do you not like about the way she handles things ? What would you like to change?
AnonymousFebruary 18,2024 at 2:26PM UTC
I would be honest with yourself. Unless your manager is abusive or unethical, what about the style prevents you from adapting? I’ve worked for every type of leader. I’m glad I didn’t leave a position that allowed me the growth opportunities and a better understanding of how to be a better, more effective leader.
Maggie StoneFebruary 20,2024 at 1:29PM UTC
Agreed, if you like the role and company, , why look elsewhere?
AnonymousFebruary 19,2024 at 2:33PM UTC
I think it's the way she communicates in emails. Maybe I'm just overly sensitive.
Maggie StoneFebruary 20,2024 at 1:32PM UTC
Unfortunately, in the business world and in life, we have to learn to communicate and work with all sorts of people.
But unless it’s rude, disrespectful, discriminatory, or hinders you from doing your job, you may have to accept it or find a work around if you like the job otherwise. When you have a meeting with them, bring up the concerns about communication in email.
AnonymousFebruary 20,2024 at 2:16PM UTC
Is her communication in emails different than in person? Some people are more direct in emails. Like what was said in another response have a conversation and don’t place any type of blame. Not sure this is enough to quit over
AnonymousFebruary 19,2024 at 6:36PM UTC
Not much detail here. Have you sat her down and let her know what you need from her? 5 months in might seem a bit late but if you approach it by saying, since it is almost 6 months and now that we have worked together for a bit I would like to let you know a bit more about what I need from you as a manager. Then talk through what you need. Give her specific details but don't make it be that she is wrong or anything is wrong make it be about how can we align better going forward on these things. Often learning how to work with differing styles of leadership and direction can strengthen you and your work because it may make you think and work differently. You will likely have to change some behavior but with the right conversation and open discussion you both may come away with a renewed respect and learnings from each other. Give it a try!
AnonymousFebruary 19,2024 at 9:16PM UTC
You have to ask yourself if you like the job, the company and the opportunities. If you don’t start looking.