Why do recruiters say they will help you and then ghost you?

Why do recruiters say they will help you and then ghost you? Very frustrating. Just continuing to push through. Staying optimistic.

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  1. Thalia Moshos

    This is why I can't stand recruiters.

  2. Laura

    Ugh, I'm sorry you're dealing with this there really is no good reason. I know they're probably busy but checking in would still go a long way. Definitely keep networking and creating connections since doing so can open doors you didn't even know existed!

  3. OLIVIA JOHNSON

    Hi there!

    So sorry to hear that you are experiencing this. Great question and to be transparent it's not professional and in no way should it be acceptable. However, unfortunately it happens.

    I did write an article on this that could be helpful.

    Reasons why you may have been ghosted! | Fairygodboss

    https://fairygodboss.com/community-discussion/lyACK4oq1/reasons-why-you-may-have

    Coach Olivia

  4. Anonymous

    Former recruiter. It's a numbers game, I've worked it, lived it, survived for a very long time in it. However, good recruiters are few and far between and maybe some current or former recruiters will write in. It's sales and a headcount survival game. But it was not a game for me, and I always always did right by my candidates as they followed me from company to company. Why? Because I listened, I knew how to manage the conversation so it was in both our best interests and respected your time, and guess what? I ALWAYS followed up. Trust me, it's exhausting and though a system can write a no thank you note, I KNEW if I kept a good relationship with the candidate I would be their go-to for their next job or their referrals. I believe in treating people how I want to be treated. I'm sorry you have been ghosted and I've said this before here, if there are recruiters out there doing that, PLEASE take time to at least email your candidates, good, bad or indifferent. They are people too. You will be doing the right thing by being more attentive.

  5. Anonymous

    Same situation

  6. Anonymous

    Because one it's not their job to help you.It's their job to fill a role. And two, they probably have about five thousand resumes they need to go through. I know that seems harsh, but you need to remember that the company is paying the recruiter, not you, so their best interest will always be with the employer.

  7. Barb Hansen

    Most of what you said is true—internal recruiters do have a job to do, and that job is to find the “best” warm body to fill a role for their company. External recruiters are hired by their clients to do the same, but with a layer of customer service on both ends—they’re representing their own agency and their client company to candidates.

    When external recruiters ghost candidates, they risk burning bridges. That candidate may not have been the right fit for this role, but they might be the perfect fit for the next one. And let’s be real—external recruiting firms often promote their “deep database” of quality talent when pitching to clients. If they’re not treating candidates professionally, that “deep database” becomes a shallow one quickly.

    As for internal recruiters—if they’re working for a company that gets 5,000 resumes per job req, then they absolutely have tools like CRMs and ATS systems that can automate communication. Yes, small companies might not have these tools, but large ones almost certainly do.

    So while it’s true that recruiters are busy, that’s not a valid excuse for ghosting candidates. Other teams in the company—Marketing, Sales, Payroll—don’t get a pass to ignore their responsibilities because they’re “too busy.” Can you imagine a marketing team saying, “We were too busy to launch our campaign,” or payroll saying, “Sorry, we couldn’t process paychecks this week”?

    Ultimately, candidates can use this behavior as a data point. If a company can’t even follow through on basic communication during the hiring process, that’s worth paying attention to—it says a lot about what working there might be like.

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