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Updated: 2/19/2025
Jun 1, 2024, 7:04:33 AM "unfair treatment "
Jun 1, 2024, 9:33:33 AM Group texts.... business and personal related - need advice. Im in a group chat with a group of ladies for which I do volunteer work. I am employed. They are retired. I attend their luncheons when I am able. The group texts are distracting and at times not important information.. GIFs sent back and forth, etc. Recently one of our volunteers past away, one woman posted a luncheon picture with the woman who past away .... a luncheon I could not attend. This same woman then states in the chat \XXXX (me) will you join us next time\". How would you respond ? I dont want to be condescending.. should I answer or just ignore the comment.. It seems to me this was an underhanded comment as the topic was the woman who past away and should not have been directed to me. Appreciate your input"
Jun 1, 2024, 1:04:12 PM Interviewer lacks integrity?
Jun 1, 2024, 6:01:17 PM "Volunteering/Non Profit "
Jun 2, 2024, 7:34:39 AM Hi Everyone
Jun 3, 2024, 2:06:13 PM "Is boss a narcissist? "
Jun 3, 2024, 6:10:20 PM Happy Monday
Jun 3, 2024, 8:06:29 PM I began working for a company in hospitality after being a photographer for several years. I let them know in the beginning that there would be weekends I would not be able to work and the company said they could accommodate. At 35, they have changed my schedule many times and require that I stand through my whole shift. I have flat feet that tire me out and by the time I come home, all I want to do is lay down. However, I have been dealing with an illness and it recently started to affect my work ethic to the point I was getting written up for stupid mistakes. Now, I'm on my last straw in their eyes. I am secretly falling apart inside trying to appease them. I'm looking for another job because I don't want to be fired and my photography side hustle doesn't make me enough to pay my bills or provide as a single mom. Any advice?
Jun 3, 2024, 10:41:44 PM Hi,
Jun 4, 2024, 5:35:25 PM There is a colleague for whom a director position was created and he installed because his boss has a favoritism problem. This person isn’t what I would consider uniquely qualified, and his direct reports slow everything down because they aren’t properly trained and developed. I work for a VP who encouraged me to provide feedback on “processes” because “he’s super receptive.” Well, I did have what I thought was a good back and forth discussion. The next day at a big meeting, however, he completely mischaracterized a report that I’m responsible for by insinuating it was incomplete because I don’t know what to look for in the data. In front of an executive team! I was mortified and furious. I called him afterwards and asked him what it was all about. He said. “What? You don’t have any ideas on improving the process?” And laughed sneakily. I was stunned. I will speak to my boss tomorrow because it’s been a week, and he’s been terrible to me. Should I have never had the initial meeting with him? I just cannot believe he would be so unprofessional when my boss is his boss’s boss and my peer.
Jun 4, 2024, 6:20:44 PM Hi everyone I’m new here. I have experience in marketing, customer service, healthcare and a bit in tech. I am also discouraged cause I’ve been looking for jobs since August. I’m interested in data analyst and project management but so many jobs of course want experience I do have Google certifications in both roles and I have my bachelors in journalism but it’s so hard with competition and lack of experience. I’m not sure what else to do. And now I’m seeing that there’s a lot of construction management jobs near me. Anyone have any clues? I’m honestly not trying to go back to school unless an employer is going to help me with paying for it. I’m open to paid and unpaid internships but again I usually see they’re available only for current students or recent graduates and I got my bachelors 4 years ago.
Jun 4, 2024, 7:27:39 PM taking time away
Jun 5, 2024, 12:54:20 PM "Genuine and Authentic Networking "
Jun 5, 2024, 9:10:06 PM I interviewed for a position as an executive assistant and was offered the job but with a different title and more money. I’ve been there since February. It’s been a challenge as the work is a lot and comes at us fast. I’ve spoken to my direct boss about the challenges and I believe it was well received. Today I saw a job listing for the job that I originally interviewed for. I’m concerned they are going to to replace me. It could be that they need to hire more people as we did hire just hire a project manager. However, I’m concerned because the work is a lot and I can’t keep up. I’ve taken days off and have actually worked through those days that I was supposed to have off because we’re that busy. Should I ask my boss about that position or leave it be? I’m so upset about it because as busy as it is, I really like it there. Any advice is appreciated.
Jun 6, 2024, 3:30:21 AM "Hello, Everyone "
Jun 6, 2024, 6:19:29 AM Hey everyone,
Jun 7, 2024, 12:55:08 AM I am looking for Remote jobs
Jun 7, 2024, 4:33:47 AM Why is it difficult to start a job?
Jun 7, 2024, 12:59:00 PM I am a 55-year-old sales professional who is unemployed and looking for a next step. For 25 years I pushed hard in the NYC market and was successful. Over the course of my career, I have developed a toolbox of different skills outside of direct selling (hiring/developing/managing a team, budgeting, negotiation, project management, ect.). I made a very good living. With 10 years to go until I retire, I am looking to kick it down a notch and find an opportunity that is local (commuting to NYC is not fun), and not as aggressively fast paced as my past roles. I am willing to take a substantial pay cut to do something that I enjoy and have a better work/life balance. How do I communicate this to a potential employer without sounding like a slacker? Any advice would be appreciated.
Jun 7, 2024, 9:55:25 PM So my husband who is a narcissist and I’ve been trying to divorce for reasons I don’t want to discuss now I haven’t filed yet for divorce, I started a new job less than a month and my boss normally takes each employee out for lunch one on one and I said few times no in polite way because I know my husband will cause a scene, I know it’s normal to have lunch break with my boss especially that I’m not doing anything wrong but for my narcissist husband it’s a disaster and a way to alienate my kids against me even more anyway today I decided to go on this lunch and for some reason my husband brought the kids to work he didn’t go inside he only kept on calling me like crazy and texting me, I didn’t want to answer, but I ended up letting my boss know the situation and that I should go back with Uber not with him to avoid a problem, I feel I did a stupid thing either way and even though my boss told me he went through the same situation 10 years ago with his ex and that I’ll never have peace of mind till I get the divorce I feel this whole thing has jeopardized my new work, he seemed understanding but maybe he was just too good in hiding what he actually thought of the situation. Any thought? And please be kind with me who didn’t go through a relation with a narcissist or interacted with one cannot really know what hell life I’m going through, if I didn’t have kids easy I would’ve slammed the freaking door and so long long time ago but with kids being brainwashed it’s a war. And it’s a long story that’s not the point now, pls any recommendations for Monday?
Jun 9, 2024, 12:09:17 PM Hi everyone,
Jun 9, 2024, 11:50:05 PM "Very tough job market out there "
Jun 10, 2024, 1:48:42 AM Happy Monday!!
Jun 10, 2024, 10:54:54 AM "Advice needed. "
Jun 10, 2024, 11:26:27 AM Seriously?
Jun 10, 2024, 12:39:10 PM When to leave a job?
Jun 10, 2024, 5:36:38 PM Covering 2 meetings for owner of company for which I am a subcontractor. She has an event that she is attending..... and asked if I can cover 2 zoom calls for her. I can...BUT, I want to be provided with the background for each call - she has been working on specific tasks for which I was not part of....until now. I need to be sure we meet in advance of the zoom calls to review the purpose of the call and the background instead of letting me fly by the seat of pants (she has done this before )... What would you say to get her to commit to a day/time and to advise her it's in the best interest of the company that I am previewed in advance. I do not want to participate in the calls if I am not provided the background. PS This group always has a better selection of words than I. Thank you!
Jun 11, 2024, 2:47:33 AM Hello everyone....
Jun 11, 2024, 5:13:28 AM Too early to start applying?
Jun 11, 2024, 7:27:21 AM "Hey FGBosses! "
Jun 11, 2024, 7:40:27 AM Well, I have been looking for a more challenging role and I think I found it. I have experience doing most of it and some of it will be a learning curve, but I know I can do it. It looks like a potentially stressful environment, but the interview with the manager went well. I can tell she is high energy and I am not as high energy. I recently was in a horrible role with a manager who was so hostile that I became physically sick. I found an easier job to get out of that one, and after a year I feel that I have had my rest and am ready for challenge again. I just do not want to find myself in another hostile situation again. I am finding myself doubting myself about this role. I feel excited about the role itself but I hope the manager is not hostile like the previous one, as that situation really hit me hard. I am in my 50's so this type of role does not come around very often. It is remote, it is in my state and it pays well, the duties are what I want to do and the manager is my age, all of which appeal to me. How can I break out of this fear? I don't want to decline the job just because I am afraid of another toxic manager, and while I admit she reminds me a little of the prior manager in her energy level, my conversation with her was not bad. At my age, I feel that I can't afford to stay in a low skill job because it is not helping my resume. I struggle with a lack of self confidence and have been told I have \imposter syndrome\" and I want to break away from that. I am contemplating accepting the job and working on myself
Jun 12, 2024, 2:26:48 PM Temp to Perm Pay Question:
Jun 12, 2024, 3:25:39 PM "Hello Fairygodboss Community, "
Jun 13, 2024, 8:34:50 AM "Hi All! "
Jun 13, 2024, 9:04:15 AM Just venting
Jun 13, 2024, 11:35:55 AM "Hi "
Jun 14, 2024, 7:46:52 AM "Trying to keep my confidence up. "
Jun 14, 2024, 10:53:53 AM "Help phrasing for my exit interview! "
Jun 15, 2024, 8:55:19 AM WWYD?
Jun 17, 2024, 9:14:51 PM "Hiring Dilemma "
Jun 18, 2024, 6:24:47 AM Hello,
Jun 19, 2024, 10:50:43 AM What to wear to a coffee interview?
Jun 19, 2024, 12:25:39 PM "Has this ever happened to you? "
Jun 20, 2024, 1:03:59 AM Hi All,
Jun 20, 2024, 8:42:42 AM I have been in my position for nearly 30 years. It is in public service and becoming more and more difficult in recent years. I am becoming quite weary with the current political climate and an escalation of aggressive, threatening and abusive behaviour from clients. I dread going to work. I am only a few years from paying in the best/max pension amount. I am also very loyal and dedicated to my organization and community. However, while I perform my duties to the fullest, I feel like my dread isn't healthy for myself, my family, and not fair to my organization. I was recently offered a position in a similar role, but with less responsibility. I wouldn't be in the direct firing line from the public, and it pays a lot more money. The work week is also shorter. I feel some excitement about the prospect, I am not afraid about being able to transition into a new role or being able to do the work, but I keep getting hung up on doing the 'responsible' thing, waiting where I am and maxing out my pension. Even though I am miserable. I am also the breadwinner in my household and I am pretty much guaranteed work for as long as I want where I am, so my fear about moving into a new role, with no certainty is also where I hesitate. It would be devastating if I moved into the new position and it didn't work out. I don't know anything about severance protection, or if there is any. Also, I have never done anything for my sake. I am thinking that now is the time to jump. Anyone have any words of advice or experience something similar?
Jun 20, 2024, 8:46:20 AM I have been working at a company for almost 2 years and I have not made any friends. I thought that I had made a friend last year but I found out/heard him discussing things that I mentioned to him (work and non work) with other colleagues and my supervisor several times. Also, he told lies about me by stating that, I said that I disliked the manager. He told me that it was a joke but the manager seemed to take it personal and believed it to be true as he is close with her. With me being new, those kind of lies did not do any good for me. So, I pulled away ever since and minimized communication and I am careful about what I discuss with him. I find it difficult to trust co workers even with work related things/info. My job is demanding and I am working on my computer most times. I chat with others sometimes when I'm on a break. But still, havent been able to make any friends. I'm introverted and shy but extroverted when I meet/chat with people with similar interests to me. Any advice? Thanks in advance.
Jun 20, 2024, 10:55:37 AM I stayed for two decades in the same job because my father, someone from that generation who said staying in the same job shows fidelity and worthiness - otherwise no one would hire you as it would be too risky and training someone is expensive. As the years went on it became more toxic and I wanted to quit. But - the type of job I had had fewer and fewer opening in my area...in my area. Finally, I asked for a reference and advised them I would leave as soon as a job was offered. Within a month, I was offered a job. My old job showed me how glad there were to get rid of me. Then the next job only kept me for a year. I was devastated. I had just travelled over 1300 miles to reach that job and get set up. Their policy stated that it was to be treated as an annual job. I was assured to get the job again since it was hard to fill. Then an indigenous person (with no experience) applied and got the job. She would be trained. I was let go. I am now so far north I can see Santa's workshop. I had to quit because there is no housing for any non-indigenous people as of August 1st. But they need me and the next closest place to rent a residence is two hours away. I was forced to leave, but no one wanted me to go. The point of this story is, I put my resume up on boards. I was hired immediately! I am worthy, I am highly skilled, I am a good person who is wanted for my skill set and great attitude. If I had only started my upward climb earlier, I would have been higher administration by retirement as opposed to middle management. GO FOR IT! BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! Life is not rough for long - all things change.
Jun 20, 2024, 12:48:28 PM "hi fairygodboss friends, "
Jun 22, 2024, 2:15:37 PM Dear FGB friends,
Jun 22, 2024, 10:17:14 PM I think I know the answer but need your input. I have two teaching interviews next week, and I’d take either one if offered. My husband thinks I should tell the first interview on Tuesday that I have another interview two days later. I disagree. I can’t see how this information would come across as anything but arrogant and off-putting to an interviewing team. Plus, they might get the mistaken impression that I would take the other job anyway (before even interviewing?), and that they should not feel bad about not choosing me! I mean, I just TOLD them that I was on the fence! I don’t care if I am right or wrong, but I think that (especially!) in my case, it lands wrong and has a very high risk of backfiring. In short, I’m keeping that in my back pocket as a mojo booster! It’s an unmentionable!
Jun 23, 2024, 6:21:20 AM "Discrimination! I worked at a family owned company (in FL). I was constantly put down, yelled at and much more. This caused me severe anxiety and chest pains. Which of course affected my work productivity. My last day I was asked if I had ADHD, I shouldn’t have replied but my anxiety & fear had me feeling like a child having to answer my parents. I said, yes & that I didn’t have my medication. then after I finished payroll and was leaving a ‘boss’ as the entire company referred to as, she tossed a paper across her desk, not even looking at me. With my 20 years of Human Resources I read the paper & it was confusing. So I asked if it was a write up or termination. She said, ‘BOTH’ still not looking at me. So I asked again what did the letter mean. Am I terminated as of now, she said YES. I refused to sign the paper, packed up my belongings and left. Again, this was the same day she asked me about my health. "
Jun 23, 2024, 12:45:53 PM Hi--I was asked to interview and make a presentation on a marketing campaign I had worked on in the past. This would be for a contract director role. I was given clear instructions to present for 30 minutes. The presentation was to address certain areas and be no more than 5 slides. I was also instructed to leave 15 minutes for questions at the end. I gave the presentation but at the end, no one asked any questions. I am feeling perplexed. Either they thought it was fine and did not have any questions or were not engaged enough to ask questions. And then they asked me if I had any questions and I was not prepared and taken aback. I put in a lot of time on this to make sure I hit every point I needed to hit. Has anyone else been in this situation where you are asked to present and get no questions?
Jun 23, 2024, 5:30:01 PM Hi,
Jun 24, 2024, 9:06:20 AM Hi everyone,
Jun 24, 2024, 12:07:05 PM "Hi everyone, "
Jun 24, 2024, 8:31:08 PM Nurse transitioning to tech?
Jun 25, 2024, 2:46:28 AM Hi everyone,
Jun 25, 2024, 8:45:50 AM Ageism, the acceptable \ism\"."
Jun 25, 2024, 11:16:24 AM Yikes, Terse...Curt Emails: ?
Jun 25, 2024, 2:29:19 PM New job & Vacation Time
Jun 25, 2024, 3:51:24 PM 1099 Work
Jun 26, 2024, 12:42:03 AM "hello guys, "
Jun 26, 2024, 2:42:33 AM Hello,
Jun 27, 2024, 9:00:44 AM "To interview or to not interview: "
Jun 27, 2024, 12:48:44 PM Hello all,
Jun 28, 2024, 7:50:02 AM "First time asking for advice. "
Jun 28, 2024, 11:23:04 AM How long…
Jun 28, 2024, 1:38:33 PM "Hey there. "
Jun 29, 2024, 6:25:00 AM How do you edit your profile?
Jun 29, 2024, 4:11:46 PM "Ghosted at a Video Interview... "
Jun 30, 2024, 6:47:00 AM New Boss Out of control:

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